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Hi! I'm Iviana Bynum.

he dragged me by my hair

Published about 1 year ago • 1 min read

I once waited almost two years for a guy to never tell me he wanted to be with me. I stuck around like a fool, thinking he’d commit.

This was after dating guy who dragged me by my hair and stalked me through my college campus. He wouldn't let go.

I wish I could say that I made all of the best decisions in relationships. The truth is, I went from one narcissist or abuser to the next for several years of my life.

It was a dark time for me.

It was a pattern I had to learn how to break. And I did.

I literally had a “come to Jesus” moment, rededicated my life, and started my personal development journey. It's been one messy layer at a time but my life has changed beautifully.

Unfortunately, it didn’t stop the fact that there are still narcissists in my life—some that I couldn’t just oust completely.

So how do you deal with that and move forward?

I had a great conversation with therapist Shannon Petrovich about toxic relationships, narcissists, and more on today’s episode of the GFB podcast.

She shares some great action steps toward getting out of toxic relationships. We also talked about the signs of a narcissist that you should avoid.

The most interesting parts of the episode are:

  • foundational lessons to keep us from making the same bad decisions
  • how to distinguish between our rational mind and emotional mind
  • how to clean up our thoughts to make better decisions in relationships to take a stand for ourselves


With so much love,

Iviana

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Hi! I'm Iviana Bynum.

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